I learned everything about packing from my mom. She was a master at packing up to move.
I'm packing up our kitchen because we are remodeling. I was laying out my packing paper and boxes when this memory of my mom and I at my dining table comes to me of the two of us packing up the dishes from years ago. Goodness knows how many times we did this together. My Love and I have moved from apartment to homes countless times and at every one it was my mom who was there ready and willing to work. Looking back I'm not sure why she volunteered but she seemed to take it on as an important mission to make sure my treasured dishes and glassware would arrive safe and sound without a chip or broken piece in box.
She would stand in front of the table where the pile of brown packing lay stacked, would pick up dishes first, wrap them sometimes with a single paper or sometimes two, pass it to me to fill the box and keep repeating this. We could have the whole kitchen done in several hours.
Was her skilled earned from the many times she and my dad moved when they first married while he was in the Military? Was it the years married to my stepfather Bill and the countless times we moved from rental house to rental house? By the time Rock and she married she was a pro at whipping up packing for moving. She never let a mover pack her dishes and crystal. Never trust a moving company with the fine breakables.
Then my Love and I marry. We moved to San Francisco and begin our lives. We lived there a year and then moved into our first home that we bought. We lived on the 4th floor in an old apartment building across from Golden Gate Park on Fulton with no elevators. Three big bay windows where we threw down pillows and bedding items that wouldn't break versus going up and down the stairs. My mom and I packed my new wedding china and crystal. We packed my new everyday Dansk dishes. Pots and pans, bowls, silverware and oh how did we fit so much into that little kitchen and breakfast area? No rest breaks till we were done. The final words from my parents after that move was not to move into any building that had no elevators if it was more than two floors. We've lived in one level homes except for one that had three half stairs, with one level where the bedrooms were, one level to the laundry and the kids play area and the main living area including the kitchen in the middle.
I'm wrapping my dishes alone. I'm thinking how slow this is to do it alone. I've barely made a dent in the hutch as I have a cold and I'm getting tired and hot. I'm missing my mom and how she would have made hay out of this job. I look at my wrapping and find my hands taking the plate, laying it cross wise on the paper, bring the corner up to cover the plate over the front, roll the plate and paper, add another plate and roll again then fold the paper around the plates. Carefully I pick it up and carry it to the box. I begin again.
Boxes begin to start an orderly stack in my dining room where all will be stored till the unwrapping begins weeks from now. She would have been there to unwrap as well. A much slower process for if you unwrap too quickly you might easily drop a plate, cup or bowl. Then was the deciding of where to place it all. She was a help even for that. We worked quite well this team work of ours. Never an angry word or a difference of opinion when it came to placement. I appreciated her wisdom of laying out a kitchen, or in this case my kitchen.
She wasn't the greatest cook but she could create an efficient kitchen and she knew how to pack.
Thursday, May 2, 2013
Thursday, April 11, 2013
Spring Clean!
I haven't written here in so long. My need to write just wasn't in my heart. I needed time to do something else. What? Oh I've been scanning, uploading, photo editing, making folders, making albums, making myself happy with sharing old photos of ages when I was a teen with a friend who was doing the same for me. I was carefree and crazy with it all!
So am I here in this moment of writing? I have four blogs, can I do four? No. I have to let go of one. Maybe two. We will see. I think I need to let go of Pupperoos! because it was too much of my life. I had no idea how many dog blogs there were out there in blogland! Oh I did enjoy it but it kept pulling me away from my writer's thoughts. It was a quick fix of photos of my poochies and snippets of words. Fluff. But I'm more than that. I can't be a quickie writer. To all the dog bloggers I send thee a fare the well.....thank you for making me laugh at your adorable photos.
I'm moving on. But don't think for one moment that I won't post a poochie photo or write about them here. I love my poochies and they are a big part of my life. Crazy I am but we are looking to add another to our twosome that we have. Late summer I hope to find a Golden back in our home. Patience...be still my heart for a Golden.
There, I've posted one of Tucker and his favorite squirrel.
Enough.....time for me to clean up the blog...I've some sweeping to begin.
Saturday, December 22, 2012
Happy Holiday decorating
Each year I like to come up with a different way of decorating the Christmas gifts. This year I had some nifty ideas that I found via Pinterest with a twist of my own. I bought brown mailing paper, then I found old vintage Christmas photos of children online, downloaded them, and printed them to use on top of a layer of burlap and ribbon, added a gift tag with Baker's twine with the cute red and white stripe for color. The cute snowflake craft paper I bought at Staples that is a Martha Stewart holiday wrapping paper they are selling this year.
Little boxed gifts on the piano lid with one of my favorite Santa Claus's
Since my daughter got married in October, I had wallet photos made to put in small frames, add a little red ribbon so they can hang as a tree ornament.
My girlfriend Lori and I saw at Crate and Barrel Christmas tree candles that they had put in Hurricane bowls. We liked that too so we each bought one of the candles to see what we could come up with. The white "snow" is Rock Salt. I added a little Santa Claus that I bought at World Market to create a "Winter scene".
Lastly, Tucker perched on the chair near our Christmas tree. Be a good boy Tucker and no eating the packages!
Little boxed gifts on the piano lid with one of my favorite Santa Claus's
Since my daughter got married in October, I had wallet photos made to put in small frames, add a little red ribbon so they can hang as a tree ornament.
My girlfriend Lori and I saw at Crate and Barrel Christmas tree candles that they had put in Hurricane bowls. We liked that too so we each bought one of the candles to see what we could come up with. The white "snow" is Rock Salt. I added a little Santa Claus that I bought at World Market to create a "Winter scene".
Lastly, Tucker perched on the chair near our Christmas tree. Be a good boy Tucker and no eating the packages!
Friday, December 14, 2012
It was quite a Wedding....
October 13, 2012..... I've been gone for so long. Truly I've been overwhelmed with many emotions of joy (I never knew one could have so many moments of joy and how they would each be so special and unique to my heart!).
So here I share just a tip of the joy our family had on our dear daughters wedding day....enjoy.
I'll be back, really I will. Now the holidays have come and a New Year just on the heels of it all. I'm still going through photos from out Wedding week in New Hampshire and may I just say I fell in love with the scenery, his family and all their friends. The Fall colors, the crisp (chilly!) days, even the days we had a bit of rain it was magic! In fact that has been my overused word for our daughter and her dear hubby B. Wedding.
Magic..... magic.... it was.
Friday, September 21, 2012
Where I have been these days.....
I'm sorry that I haven't blogged in such a long, long time....we have a wedding in the family and I just have busy getting ready for it.
Oh then starting in July we had a lot of time with family gatherings, vacation and poof! time passes by swiftly!
I don't think I'll be back till after mid October.....but if I have a chance I'll try to write..really I will.
I've thought of my blog friends and so much has gone on since the last time I read any blogs I'm sure.
I'm working on a special gift to bring to the wedding and my time is devoted to that....
Very happy times around here!!!!
Wednesday, August 22, 2012
Wise Words Indeed
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My love, my daughter and her fiance, my son and middle daughter (L to R) |
On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
I love the words of Kahlil Gibran, such wise and truthful words. This July our family was able to spend some cherished time together. It gets harder with every year as they don't all live near the "nest" as they once did. Whenever I am with them I can't help but look at my children, all grown up except R, and am amazed at their adult faces. Like looking at your newly born babe, I look at them. I look in their eyes and see that if they could they would tell the stories of where and what they have been doing. The hugs given, so sweet to me the hugger, to feel their bodies warmth next to mine, holding on, remembering all the hugs we have shared. They restore my motherly need to be close to my babes.
The release of our children has to be one of the hardest acts for me knowing that the years of my needing to mother / parent are waning in my lifetime. I'm grateful that I will have this gift for awhile longer with R, but the girls, they are grown ups. I want to be their good friend / mother. Someone they can count on both ways. This can be tricky for that means ones grown children need to release the thought that the parent is trying to pry or question them when really the parent is just interested in what they are doing! It also means the the grown children must perish the thought that they need parental approval for their lives / lifestyle. It means that they must get cozy with the idea that mom and dad can still not agree on all that they do or say just as they do not need to agree on everything we do or say and it still is okay.
Today I was registering R for his Junior year in High School. I was waiting for him to get his photo ID taken and noted that many of the moms were hovering and fussing with their daughter's hair while seated for the photographer. I laughed to myself and wondered why oh why they were doing this. I suppose if my daughter(s) had asked me to do this then I would but seriously I think parents need to let our kids arrange themselves for a photograph when they're teens. I'm there at the school because it is required but if it wasn't I would have R. do it all himself. In my day we went alone and did it ourselves! Some parents can't resist being the "helicopter" parent and never let their children learn on their own. I have always stayed out of my kids school work unless it was necessary for me to do so. I set guidelines for when it was the homework time and not phone call or TV time. Yes, there might have been some "why mom?!" but once it was made clear we didn't have too many issues. There are far more important tasks in parenting and lessons to learn when it comes to children and their responsibility of homework. I'd much rather lean towards the positive track and how that feels than harping on a negative.
My kids have all had their ups and downs as the years have gone by. Just like all people regardless of age or sex. We are human. Trusting ones intuition when you come from a consistent, supportive upbringing will come to them even if it didn't when it should have. We learn sometimes by error and that isn't always so bad. Perhaps because I married young and my Love and I became parents young we never had to go through the phases that many young adults seem to go through these days. We had no choice but to make a living to support the family and home. Well, okay, I was a stay at home mom, but I darn tooting worked hard at my home job! I never doubted my ability to care for home and family, I just did it. So I wasn't the greatest cook, well I certainly could keep the home tidy and the clothes clean. I could keep my kids for the most part happy and entertain them with trips to the park, plenty of paper and crayons, songs to sing or listen to, and most of all love. I found my "perfect career", mothering. I'm a good wife too. Love my man, my friend. I hope my girls and son someday find their perfect soul mate. Yes, my first born daughter has....and soon a wedding...
In the words of Emily Dickenson ~
That love is all there is
Is all we know of love
Saturday, August 18, 2012
To My Life
When our eyes met my soul was completed,
When you smiled, it opened up a closed door to my heart,
When you said 'hello', my happiness lit up a dark corner of my life where I thought it couldn't have been touched by another,
but can you see what's in my heart or in my eyes?
Can you see my soul? Look into my eyes? What do you see? How about me?
Look for me, find my happy place, see me? Find me;
complete the light in my soul as you did when our eyes met.
Smile?
Susan San Augustin
It's been a long time of not writing. I needed the rest more than you know. I'm back...open heart, healed heart. We can never anticipate what or where our daily life will lead us, let alone why. I like to think it is growth and sometimes growing pains there to remind us that we are merely human. We are not of a storybook, fairytale, a movie or TV...we are mortals with frailty, with strength, pulsing along, walking, sitting, daydreaming...we breath, we hold our breaths, tears, smiles, questions, and so it goes day by day.
So it goes...and here I am. Fresh as morning dew...the first light of dawn...the first step on a quiet beach...
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